What is holding you back?
What do you do as a positive habit that you continue, day after day, week after week?
What do you want to do that could change your life?
Think about it.
And then just do it.
We make that statement harder than it seems when we make the idea of changing who we are harder than it needs to be. Think of it this way: when you make a decision and you mean it from the very core of you, it’s done.
How many times have you made such decisions? It could have been in a relationship, or a job. It could have been about taking a chance or doing something differently after a bad decision led to a terrible outcome.
Whatever the case may be, remember exactly how you felt in that moment you made the decision. Remember your resolve. How firm you were.
Do you recall that there was no hesitation? No ambiguity? That you knew exactly and without doubt that you were about to make that change?
When you don’t have that resolve, that firm feeling that you need to change something, then you haven’t accepted within yet that the shift must occur. You are holding on to the way you’ve been for some reason. Comfort, addiction, some perceived sense of identity and belonging that goes with your very sense of beingness in the world.
It is impossible to shift out of it, then, until you know within yourself that the time to do so has arrived.
You can’t force yourself to do it and other people can’t either. No schedules, no incentives, no punishments, no promises, garnishes or rewards can make you walk a path and be someone who you know you’re not, inside.
You may attempt to do it and experience some success, but you will eventually and invariably go right back to what you were doing and who you were before. Falling ‘off the wagon’ and breaking whatever promises you may have made to yourself and others.
Multiples of that type of experience can lead you to the point at which you gain that resolve and truly mean to shift. And it is only then, when you know that you’ve reached a dead end in whatever kind of life you were leading and that the only way out and up from there is to shift, that you will make that change. That you will really be ready.
And when you are, truly, absolutely nothing can make you go back to the way you were before because you’ve been down that road and know exactly where in the hell it leads.